I **really** want to clue my parents in on so many things. I just know there could/will be dire consequences for doing so. Here’s what I’d say to them:
Dear Dad & Mom,
I’d like you to know that I’m not who you thought I am. I not the obedient child. I’m not even compliant. I am a daily living-in-sin individual. My boyfriend and I live together. We have been for nearly our entire dating relationship. We live in a little town about 12 miles from where you think/thought I lived. The house is a fixer-upper with much improvement needed still. We were initially going to do a rent-to-own contract; however, we feel that we’re supposed to move out-of-state. My boyfriend has work in the state we want to move to. I have been applying to many jobs over the past month or so trying to secure a job before we head that way.
I’m not sure why sharing all of this is so hard to do. Yes I do. I feel like I am constantly being judged and ridiculed even when I’m not confessing something of this magnitude. “You need to do this.” “Why haven’t you dont that?” “Why did you ……” Oh my gosh! I know you guys truly mean well. I appreciate everything you have ever done for me. Please, please, please — I beg of you — PLEASE let me be an adult without making me feel like I’m still a 12 year old girl!
I love my boyfriend dearly. I know that you would say I should be married before “having relations” and living with him. I know that’s also what the Bible says. I know. And I am still choosing this for my life. I know you will/do not approve. That’s ok. At least you, too, know now.
I know there are consequences for my actions. Whatever they may be I am prepared to deal with them.
I know you guys love me. I love you. I will *always* be your daughter.
Why can’t I just tell them all of that?! **sigh**