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An Okay Day.

630am – I hit the snooze button first thing this morning.  I had slept poorly and did not want to get out of bed.  I did manage to get up 10 minutes later; however, I had a heck of a time getting dressed and ready for the day.  After getting some coffee in me I moved a bit better.

745am – I had been messaging my ex-boyfriend’s friend on this mobile app game we play.  I haven’t talked to him since I moved and thought I’d say hi.  I had asked if my ex-boyfriend (see how I’ve moved on to calling him my actual ex-boyfriend instead of “(ex)-bf”?) had informed him that we’d broken up because we both know how my ex-boyfriend loves to share what’s going on <– sarcasm… His reply: Yeah, he told me you were splitting before you moved.  My response: “Seriously? Asshole. I just broke up with him two weeks ago. Geez.  Oh well. Doesn’t matter now.”  Then I continued with a new message: “The more I find out about his actions over the past several months the more heartbroken and foolish I feel.  I’m sorry for bitching at you.”  I cried the whole way to work wondering why he’d even proposed to me in the first place… Why did he ever decide to get so involved if he was just going to be deceitful with me and those around him?

830am – My intern met me at the office.  By that time I’d had two cigarettes and had wiped my face well enough to conceal the fact that I’d been crying for a half an hour (at least I hope so).  We had to drive to a hospital to see a little girl that was being placed in foster care today.  Her story isn’t awful.  Well, she at least hasn’t been through what her siblings had gone through.  This little blessing of a baby was born yesterday morning.  Her older siblings are all in foster care.  Therefore, she is going into foster care.  We were at the hospital for the majority of the day hanging out with the birth mother, the baby, and the foster parents.  I was encouraged to see the foster parents and birth mom forming a positive relationship.

2pm – I finally made it into the office and started on the necessary paperwork for my new placement.

4pm – I called my bestie and we chatted on the phone my entire drive home.  I love her so much.  🙂

430pm – I arrived home.  I promptly received a call from a DHHR office with a referral for three kiddos.  Thankfully they did not want the kids placed in my region so I was able to pass the referral along to the correct office.

5pm – I went upstairs and hung out with my landlady and her boyfriend’s son.  We had a good time.

730pm – I read a very selfish post online regarding my ex-boyfriend’s aunt by his other aunt.  I promptly got ahold of his sister and mother to read the update because I knew they’d been blocked from seeing the post.  We had a good discussion at the snobby aunt’s expense.  And then we talked about my ex-boyfriend’s circumstances and tossed around some reasons for his issues.  We all hope he starts getting out of his dark hole, not so that he’ll want me back but so that he will be happy and healthy again.

9pm – blogging.

Overall, today has been okay.  There have been high and low points today.  So, I’m rating this day as a 5/10.  An okay day.

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I Am Pissed.

Oh my goodness.  I am SOOOOO MAD!!!

Here’s the story: this past Saturday I had my first PRIDE class.  One family showed up.  I don’t really care that only one family showed up or that the one family that did show up didn’t RSVP.  I’m just glad that I had a reason to be at work on a Saturday.

So, I get to work this morning and have an email that basically states that I need to cancel PRIDE because I only had one family show up and that I don’t need to be teaching PRIDE on a Saturday if I can get 2 sessions completed in 3 1/2 hours instead of 6.

Let me fucking tell you what:

  1. I did NOT discuss my class with my boss.  The office slut did.
  2. When only one family shows up, the material does not take long to review.
  3. I left at 2pm, not 1:30pm.  Therefore, class took 4 hours, not 3 1/2.
  4. I don’t talk about the bitch to my boss, so she sure as hell better stop talking about me.
  5. After reading the email and responding, I took a smoke break.  No wonder I can’t stop smoking.  I’m so frustrated with this job that I need an outlet (i.e. smoking).
  6. In my reply I stated, “I’d appreciate you asking me about how PRIDE went directly rather than sending me an email about information you received secondhand.”
  7. If I get fired, I don’t care.
  8. If the asshole wants to play favorites, I don’t care.  I have no desire to be the favorite.  I’m not going to suck his wrinkled old dick just to keep my fucking job.
  9. My boss should have some fucking respect for the rest of the people that work here.
  10. If the bitch wants to be – bitchy – I don’t care so long as she isn’t getting me or my coworkers into unneeded trouble.

I could rant and rave some more.  I think I should do something productive today if I want to validate my position here. 

Also, the slut should put some proper clothing on for once.  The temp is like 40-some degrees, not 90.

Good day.

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PRIDE and Coffee.

Starting this Saturday I begin a new round of PRIDE classes.  My asshole boss decided that I should do Saturday classes.  I think he should teach Saturday classes and see how he likes spending every Saturday of a whole month at work.  I don’t mind working a Saturday every now and then, but generally I like having my weekends OFF.  Now, because my boyfriend is gone, doing Saturday classes isn’t that bad.  At least I will have something to do on the weekends this month.  And I can work shorter daytime hours during the week.

Being a nonprofit agency, we tend to buy the cheapest of things for office supplies.  One thing that we don’t skimp on is coffee.  I am so glad we get a name-brand coffee.  Right now we have Maxwell.  Sometimes we get Folgers.  Sometimes we splurge and get Starbucks… Mmmm…  I am so glad that I can have as much coffee as I want on this diet.  🙂

There are 23 working days this month.  Well, 27 for me.  That totally sucks!  I am so taking a day or two off somewhere this month.  *stamps foot*

Ok, for those of you who are wondering what PRIDE is, I’ll tell you.  This is what I send to prospective foster/adoptive parents:

PURPOSE

Foster PRIDE/Adopt PRIDE is a competency-based program for the pre-service training, assessment, and selection of prospective foster parents and adoptive parents.  PRIDE Training consists of a nine session training program and a mutual assessment process involving a series of at-home family consultations.  The program is based on the philosophy that knowledgeable and skilled foster parents and adoptive parents are integral to providing quality family foster care and adoption services.

OVERVIEW

Session One: Connecting with PRIDE – Session One gives you the unique opportunity to learn about the world of foster care and adoption through the stories of children receiving child welfare services.  Session One also welcomes you to Foster PRIDE/Adopt PRIDE, explaining how this training program fits in with the process of assessing and selecting foster families and adoptive families.  You will discover how families are licensed and certified for this important work.  Session One spells out how the knowledge and skills (known as “competencies”) that successful foster families and adoptive families need. (Saturday, October 6, 2012; 10AM-1PM)

Session Two: Teamwork toward Permanence – One of the most challenging tasks for foster families and adoptive families involves developing an understanding of birth family issues –knowing how to talk with children about their families and being able to support their family relationships.  This session lays the foundation for this understanding by first exploring the ways in which families support a child’s identity, cultural heritage, and self-esteem. (Saturday, October 6, 2012; 1PM-4PM)

Session Three: Meeting Developmental Needs: Attachment – Session Three explores how abuse, neglect, and trauma impact a child’s attachments, development, and behavior. (Saturday, October 13, 2012; 10AM-1PM)

Session Four: Meeting Developmental Needs: Loss – Session Four reviews the stages of loss and their impact on the child, with an emphasis on how loss affects the child’s behavior. (Saturday, October 13, 2012; 1PM-4PM)

Session Five: Strengthening Family Relationships – Session Five reviews the child welfare goal of returning children in foster care to their birth families whenever possible. (Saturday, October 20, 2012; 10AM-1PM)

Session Six: Meeting Developmental Needs: Discipline – Session Six covers the knowledge, skills, and personal qualities adults need to instill effective, appropriate discipline. (Saturday, October 20, 2012; 1PM-4PM)

Session Seven: Continuing Family Relationships – This session promotes understanding of permanency timeframes, and the importance of the “child’s clock” in making permanency decisions. (Saturday, October 27, 2012; 10AM-1PM)

Session Eight: Planning for Change – Session Eight takes a practical view of what to expect during the first hours, days, and weeks of a child’s placement in a home.  You will learn what to ask the worker and how to talk to the child.  You will also have the opportunity to explore how placement will impact your family, and particularly your own children. (Saturday, October 27, 2012; 1PM-4PM)

Session Nine: Taking PRIDE: Making and Informed Decision – In this closing session, you will hear from a panel of experienced members of the foster care team.  Birth parents, foster parents, adoptive parents, workers, and other members of the child welfare team present their views and answer questions. (To Be Determined)

I have taught PRDIE enough times now that I am very comfortable with what I am presenting at each session.  I can improvise and share from personal experiences.  I have my notes as a security blanket, but I can handle the topics without much help from the notes.  I actually enjoy teaching the classes.    I would just rather do them during the week than on a Saturday.  Oh well.

Good day.

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Night and Day.

This is basically a continuation of yesterday’s blog.

So, yesterday my co-worker and I had to drive a bit of a distance to pick up three children in order to place them in a foster home.  We arrived at the designated meeting point about 3 minutes early.  The DHHR worker was at least 15 minutes late.  Go figure.

I can’t tell you how much my heart breaks for these three little ones.  Sometimes placements aren’t that difficult.  And I guess this placement wasn’t as difficult as just seeing the state of these kiddos.  First thing I noticed was the black eye of the 3 year old.  Then I noticed the big bumps and huge gash on the 2 year old’s head.  The little girl looked okay, but who knows.  The next thing I noticed was their stench.  These children smelled so terrible.  They were filty from head to toe and everywhere in between.  Snot and dried tears were caked on their little cheeks.  Their clothes were covered in dirt and who knows what else.  The doctor had said that they had bedbug bites, but to me the marks looked like a rash.

So, my coworker and I arrived back to the office around 730pm.  The foster mom and her mother were there already.  Foster dad was too good to come get the kids, I guess.

Side note: foster parents can be just as infuriating as birth parents.

We get the kids unloaded from our vehicle and the foster mom is like “we don’t have the car seats in yet.”  I go inside with the children to change their diapers.  All three were soaked and one had a poopy diaper.  Their clothes just — **shudder**.  So gross.  The foster mom FINALLY decided to start getting the car seats situated.  My coworker and I had to help her.  And of course rain started pouring down.  By the time everything was all said and done, my coworker and I were soaked, felt dirty, were dirty, and were exhausted.

I got home around 9pm.  I took a hot shower.  I’d like to say I went straight to bed (because that is what I really wanted to do).  After I got PJs on, my roommate and her boyfriend arrived home.  My roommate told me that a man came to the house asking about one of our vehicles.  He said that he’s been “checking it out” and that he’s been “looking around” the place.  CREEPED OUT!  So, I immediately call my boyfriend and tell him.  The guy left his number, but I couldn’t make out the last 4 digits.  I’m tempted to tell the police about the situation…  I locked the doors last night…

Today I got to work, brought my other coworker up to speed on the new children’s case because she will be their social worker.  I then went to do a home visit.  I swung by my house (which really is not at all “on the way”) before heading back to the office.  I got lost because I had never been that way home before and then I got stuck waiting for a train and I had to pee so bad because I had drank an extra large coffee from Sheetz and and and… Oh my goodness.  I just wanted to stay home and sleep!

Instead, I came back to the office and then went Wal-Mart shopping for the office.  Then me and three of my coworkers sat around talking about various families and their ability or lack thereof to be good parents…  I’ve been in the office for a total of 3 hours today at most.  I did manage to finish writing a home study (yay).

I’m going home now.  I may make myself an adult beverage.  Or I may just call it a night and go to bed…

Good day.

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